Don and I set up date nights years ago. Should have implemented them when our boys were small. Lesson learned. Ladies from my perspective this falls into our organization list. Not a rule, if your guy is good at it, great just Get R Done. I understand how Neglect feels.
See 3-No's. Below
Been there, done that, paid the butcher! God always says to me; you're the one listening!
It will become a good habit.
Yesterday I had an inspiring idea; the weather was delightful for April. 68 degrees wow, balmy.
I was at home and could plan something a little more elaborate.
Let's go fishing at one of the local ponds. I thought! A Surprise!
I texted him saying I had a surprise for date night. His response was "Oh joy can't wait". Yes, he threaded his response with sarcasm. I texted, You underestimate me! Don said "never'. Well, it's conversation. There was a time when I was touchy, and sarcasm would have bugged me. I grew up and dealt with my "touchiness".
3-Yes's & 3 -No's.
Rule's of Thumb
a. Communicate the plan
(agree together to go out, what night, budget, Babysitter if need be., etc.)
b. Serve the purpose Agree that YOU BOTH are worth it! Investment brings return. Children love happy Mommy's and Daddy's.
c. Keep it light, fun & creative. after date nights are establish, invite another couple to join you, once a month.
a.Over doing: if romance has been taking a back seat, work up to it, communication is more important.
(Choose a location he feels confident in to start)
Sports Bar, Pub, Hamburger Joint,
My Folks would say; Taco Bell
b. Rules of conduct: Agree no talking about, money, job, kids or parents. Positive notes only (Remember your Pioneering new territory)
c. Deal with your emotion's and expectations before Date Night (I can hear you say: How? If a disagreement is hanging in the air, forgive, period!
No judgement's or punishments. Period! It's got to start somewhere. And your listening otherwise you wouldn't be reading this blog post.
Keep "short" accounts of wrongs and weaknesses. If truths were being told, and I was asked to check my heart actions first. I would find plenty of logs in my eye to keep me occupied from pointing out his! If your interested in transformation and forgiveness check out these posts: Out On a Limb. A Break in the Weather, Violets For You....
That's enough deep xxxxxxx! My plan went south about an hour before he was due home. Disappointed but never the less re-group. Our patio is very inviting, So I did my best to put on the Dog................
creative Ta Do's is my thing..........Nothing Fancy we had a light-hearted menu of, Salmon patties, homemade makeshift tarter sauce, which was awesome if I do say so, Over the top green salad, green beans and rice, dinner, a bottle of (very inexpensive) Riunite Lambrusco. (Safeway) Perfect.
All needs accounted for between us. Together we cleared the table. He smoked a cigar which is a treat Don looks forward to; I sat upwind, we watch a hilarious movie
"The Love Punch" my French friend recommended on my iPad. Still outside, Should I confess, we went out for Cold Stone Ice Cream later...........ouch
Oh, the Pillow joke, I alluded too on the banner. This dinner was low key, haven't got out the summer patio stuff from the garden shed yet. Still, a bit of rain to deal with before we declare patio months. Mid-May probably. I have a pillow fetish. Yup, all kinds, Bed, sofa, outdoor. Years ago Don and I had a 20 ft. O Day sailboat. Our first dates were racing Hobie Cat's so this fit right into our memories.
We planned a much-needed vacation to the San Juan Islands Washington State. First time to park the car & boat-trailer, sailing across the San Juan Channel. Great Book: Gunkholing in the San Juan Islands, it is our bible when we sail there. Been back several times.
Well, my creative romantic imagination had visions of an expensive yacht sailing around in luxuries. Pillow's here and Pillows there that would make it romantic. Right? Except if you're in a 20 ft sailboat with a 6'4 husband, packed cooler and Yorkshire terrier. You couldn't move, change clothes, cook a meal without moving one of many blasted pillows. Surprising we didn't throw any overboard. We laugh at it now. I have to tell you a bit more of the story to make you laugh. Well, we were heading for our last night of vacation and sailing over to Friday Harbor. Got in a little late, so we were assigned on the "transient dock" instead of a boat slip. Now, on a 20ft sailboat, door removed because it was weather warped, your bedroom is the kitchen, salon and everything. We did have a sink and a small propane stove. People would be walking the docks as people do to look at all the beautiful boats. You should have seen their expression when their eyes strolled over our way and accidentally viewed us in our "bedroom". Ha ha ha. Nothing in-appropriate, like looking over the neighbors fence. Anyhow.
My quick story: we sailed in for our last night stay and tied up for our final hurrah!. No boats around us, we shut our eyes for much-needed sleep. We woke up in the morning sandwich between two 80-plus foot Yachts. What a hoot. We laugh today about that. We had just as much fun!
Well, that's my story today. I have 97 pages written in my book! Hoot Hoot. I'm so excited. (Book is published) What a blessing to share my stories with you today.
Go have a date with your honey. Make it a lifestyle.
these are not picture's from our 20 ft. sailboat,
We currently charter 40 footers.
More room for pillows!!!
Found a picture!